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三不问，三不说：提醒自己谨言
A personal reflection on 三不问，三不说: respecting privacy, avoiding gossip and being more mindful of the words I choose.
记住三不问，三不说。
不问他人隐私。
不问过往是非。
不问闲事长短。不说抱怨的话。
不说挑拨的话。
不说伤人的话。
Three things not to ask
- Do not pry into other people’s private matters.
- Do not dig into past disputes or who was right or wrong.
- Do not involve yourself in idle gossip about other people’s affairs.
Three things not to say
- Words of complaint.
- Words that stir up conflict between people.
- Words that hurt others.
Why I want to remember this
This is a good reminder for me because, at times, I do not watch what I say. A few words can come out before I have thought about how they might affect someone else.
I want to pause before speaking: am I respecting someone’s privacy? Am I adding something useful? Could my words stir up trouble or cause hurt?
三不问，三不说。 A simple reminder to be more thoughtful about what I ask, what I repeat and what I say.